“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin Roosevelt
You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.‘ Eleanor Roosevelt
FEAR: Future Events Appearing Real and others: FEAR is healthy and can trigger Fight or Flight natural responses.
Fear of the unkown, pain, dissapointment, ridicule, loneliness, rejection, death
Fears of Failure, Success, Relapse, Self Sabotage, being alone, making mistakes, public speaking, looking foolish, ignorant ~ the list seems endless.
FEARarchy! Who knew.. another pyramid! The term itself is being deleted from wikipedia.. huh.. Hierarchy of Fear is a real thing…..The five basic fears are defined as the following, in order of intensity:
Extinction – Fear of annihilation, of ceasing to exist; the idea of stepping too close to the edge of a building and slipping.
Mutilation – Fear of losing any part of our precious bodily structure; the thought of being eaten alive by an alligator or bear.
Loss of Autonomy – Fear of being immobilized, paralyzed, restricted, enveloped, overwhelmed, entrapped, imprisoned, smothered; some may call this claustrophobia or anxiety in a group setting.
Separation – Fear of abandonment, rejection, and loss of connectedness – of becoming an outcast, not wanted, respected, or valued by anyone else; the idea of being bullied or receiving the “silent treatment” by an individual or group.
Ego-death – Fear of humiliation, shame, or any other mechanism of profound self-disapproval that threatens the loss of integrity of the Self; fear of being judged for opinions or beliefs.
Okay, so that’s it, according to Psychology Today https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/brainsnacks/201203/the-only-5-fears-we-all-share
Don’t Be Paralyzed by Fear!
How to Let go of Fear and Insecurity
1. Identify your fears and insecurities. Make a list of all your fears. The first step to eliminating fear is recognizing exactly what it is that makes you afraid. Is it a fear of failure? Rejection? Looking foolish? Once you pinpoint your fears, think about why you are afraid of those things. Are your fears rooted in logic or are they a product of your own emotions?
2. Stop overthinking everything. Sure, it is good to think a situation through before you make a major decision, but too much thinking prevents you from actually doing anything. And if you never act on anything, you’ll never get ahead. So stop over-analyzing every single little thing, don’t talk yourself out of making decisions and instead, just act!
3. Find your strengths and play those up. When you remind yourself of what you are good at and what you like about yourself, you gain more confidence and start to let go of your fear. The next time you feel that sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach, try to think about at least three strengths that you have that make you unique.
4. Exercise and eat well. We all know that exercise and a healthy diet are good for our bodies, but a healthy lifestyle can also improve your mood and make you feel more relaxed, balanced and confident. This in turn, is a surefire way to vanquish anxiety and insecurity.
5. Set goals. Without a plan it is very easy to get lost and feel as though you have no purpose in life. Goal setting can give you some direction and force you to rise above your fears to achieve the things you want in life. In addition, every for milestone or goal that you reach, you will gain that extra boost of confidence that will help you to get over your insecurities.
When it comes down to it, fear is very much a product of the mind and more of an internal struggle than anything to do with the reality of the outside world. If you look within yourself, trust your decisions and learn to love yourself, you will find that your fears will dissipate and you can get on with enjoying everything that life has to offer.
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