TOXIC PEOPLE:  

We all have them in our lives…. people that are toxic.. emotional vampires who spend countless hours discussing drama and their lives.  Learn how to spot these people and gently (or rudely) disengage:

TOXIC VOCABULARY:  

how often do we find ourselves in an internal barrage of negative talk…creating fear, anxiety, panic which can lead to us being frozen in place?  Self sabotage, procrastination, anxiety and even making ourselves sick over it. literally.

This is toxic!  We need to learn to stop the negative self talk and start positive affirmations….. remember the SNL skit?  Some of  that is REAL ie Mirror work, and saying positive mantras… even prayers have their root in positive affirmation…meditation and mindfullness are key tools as well.

Exchange Vocabulary

Upset feelings are usually caused by the way we are thinking about what is happening, not the events themselves. To change your feelings (and your behavior), try the following “Exchange Vocabulary.”

This idea was given to me by a client, who related it to an exchange list for unhealthy foods. When you first try this new way of thinking, it might not feel right. The more you do it, however, the more natural these realistic beliefs will become.

I think you will like the results, but prove it for yourself by giving it a fair try. Good luck.

© Robert F. Sarmiento, Ph.D. Used here with permission.

Word Exchange Table

Statements

Emotional Vocabulary Exchange

REBT does not endeavor to eliminate emotions. Quite to the contrary! Emotions are very useful and part of the human advantage — When Appropriate!

http://www.smartrecovery.org/resources/library/Tools_and_Homework/Encyclopedia/vocabulary_exchange.htm